Hi Robin, Thank you as always for your honesty. I can relate to all what you said. I dont want my kids to feel how I felt as a child, but I struggle with showing affection and often feel like a failure as a mother. Breaking intergenerational trauma is not as easy as it sounds, it’s deeply cemented into us and bubbles to the surface at the slightest trigger.A hurt little child still lives in us waiting to be seen and healed. Like you said, being kind to ourselves begins the healing . I also believe that our painful experiences make us stronger even though we may have been scarred from it. Because of it we are changed in good ways also, we can understand other people’s pain, are resilient and tougher. Like you said- One step at a time! We will get there!