Hi Cynthia, this is an interesting topic. I too wrote something about it on similar lines. I feel there are pros for both. I had a very lonely childhood even though I had an elder brother. Because he was a boy and the big age difference,I felt like I had no siblings. I wanted my kids to never feel that loneliness.

But like they say -Be careful what you wish for!

My 3 kids are close in age. Though they do play together and have moments of closeness, the sibling fighting is constant. It drives me crazy.

Like you said many single kids who do not feel lonely as they have a very close extended family network of cousins. All that attention makes them very confident and secure.

I have seen many families where adult siblings have fought and no longer speak to each other. But I have seen the flip side too where the siblings have got each other’s backs and it is such a great support system especially when the parents are no more. It is a priceless bond.

I do not know if my kids will become close when they grow up or drift apart. Only time will tell. Fingers crossed!